| An even bigger epidemic is the act of cyber
cheating. Cyber cheating is the act of carrying on relationships of a sexual
nature over the internet. With the advent of the world wide web, people can
now carry on deep relationships online and even have what is called cyber
sex!
Now, there’s a debate ongoing whether cyber
cheating is actually cheating. But I wish to share my on thoughts on the
subject with you.
I think cheating is in the heart. If someone
is devoting attention to someone of the other sex for reasons of having an
online relationship, I feel this is very wrong. As the spouse, I feel that
all affection, besides that directed to other family members, should be
mine.
Another problem with cyber relationships is
that it often carries on into cyber sex. This strikes me the same way as
actual physical contact. From a male standpoint, I believe most men have
sex to pleasure themselves. Whether the contact is physical or over a modem,
I still feel the end result is gaining pleasure of someone else that isn’t
me.
Sure, you might be able to shrug off this behavior.
At least, you say, they aren’t going out. But what relationship will
continue under these circumstances. Doesn’t it make sense that eventualy
the two parties will want to physically meet, and doesn’t it stand to
reason that they will be initmate?
Okay, so you agree that cyber cheating is a
real problem. If not, continue on to the next chapter. But if you want to
find out if your mate is active in this form of cheating, read on.
Are they actually cyber cheating? Here’s
some warning signs:
1) They turn off the monitor or close the laptop
when you walk in on them
2) Spending tons of time on the computer
3) Staying on the computer even after you went
to bed
If any of the above sound familiar, or if you
have a feeling something’s not right, there are ways to check out the
activity of your spouse. Often, cyber cheating is done in chat rooms. But
it often overflows into the cheater’s e-mail box as well.
A tip off might be a e-mail address that
you don’t have access to. Another might be spending tons of time on
the computer, neglecting everything else.
One way to check on your spouse’s activities
is to check the history. Are they visiting personal meeting sites or chat
rooms. You can also check the cookie jar on your browser which deposit’s
a cookie when someone visits parts the internet. Checking the names for different
curious cookies then checking them out is an easy way to see where your mate
spends their time.
As a final option, you can purchase software
to see everywhere your spouse goes and what they do. You can check e-mail
messages and chat room conversations. It really is the quick way to find
out exactly what your spouse is up to.
And remember. If you do discover your spouse
is guilty of a cyber affair and you approach them, be prepared that they
will say it’s not really cheating. The best answer to that is, “then
why did you keep it a secret”?
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Break
free from the affair
Hopeful
solutions for a sexless marriage
Saving your
marriage with trust and love
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** Think your spouse may be guilty of
cheating? Want to find out for sure? Grady Smith offers "Is Your Spouse Cheating"
which shows you how to catch a cheating spouse using expert techniques. Click
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http://www.mountainhighpub.com/cheating.html
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